I keep hearing that trust has to be earned. That you have to trust step by step, see if the other one is worth it and, and, as you get to know each other better, you trust a little more. Until one day, when you trust him completely. If you ever get there.
Sounds like bullshit to me. Cause my logic says the opposite. What does it mean that the trust must be earned? Well, isn’t it as if we’re all guilty until proven otherwise?
I mean, instead of honoring you, the one I chose with my own hand, head, and soul, I don’t really trust my choice, so I put you in jail for about 12 years; then, from time to time, on good behavior, I let you out on bail but keep you under surveillance. You do the same with me!
We’ll meet from time to time at the mess or the wire fence, in case one of us is released earlier. If you resist, my friend, then you will have all my trust. And, of course, during all this time, your behavior won’t be affected by my lack of trust; you will have the same innocence you had when we met. I will do too.
Yeah, my logic might be wrong. Not! Because for me, it makes more sense to trust him completely from the beginning. My logic says it is better to give it your all; at least you know one thing: either he knows what to do with it or doesn’t. If he doesn’t know right away, he’ll never know. It’s about his nature. Natural selection and time saved, from where I look. But maybe I’m looking from the wrong angle.
And if you don’t give it your all, it means you don’t trust yourself. Not him. Either friend or consort.
You don’t have enough confidence to believe that you made the right choice, to believe that even if you didn’t, you would be able to survive the deception, to believe that you will be able to manage this qualified or not theft without falling off your feet, to believe that you can go on as a whole.
But do you think that after 5 years, 7 years, 12 years, 20 years together, you will be able to survive more easily? Will you be able to manage the killing of trust better?
I think you will only have spent too much time with the offender, and it will be harder for you to convict him definitively and irrevocably.
