You train a good part of your life. For the show of your life. The one that doesn’t last just two hours. But a lifetime. Nobody has tickets at the entrance. Because it’s not a show for the public. Or it shouldn’t be. It’s just for you. For you two. And that makes it all the more important.
You train a good part of your life. For high-performance. You don’t want a second-hand show. With special effects. With cheap tricks. You want the real thing. You want the highest performance. The one that goes down in history. The story. Your story.
But to perform in love, the high-wire act must be done without a safety net. This is the only way you can succeed: absolute trust in yourself, in him, in both of you. The rest is just training. Which can get you close to what you want, but it will never be what you really want.
When you keep another ex close to you, to catch you if you fall, you can’t perform. It is only natural not to forget that they exist, that they were part of your life, contributed to who you are today, to keep in touch and see them if friendship is what binds you. I’m not talking about friendships. Each of us knows when it’s friendship and when it’s a safety net. You don’t have to admit it. Not me. Not in front of the world. But you better admit it to yourself. So you don’t fool yourself. Because if you keep it as a safety net, you are not ready to perform. At least not with this partner. It’s that simple.
Some train for a lifetime and never have the courage and confidence to throw themselves into the high-wire act based solely on themselves and their partner. They’d better look for another one.
If you tie yourself with invisible threads, you may become entangled in them. Wake up in the air, upside down, cause they got knotted by mistake. One will fall. One will remain suspended. If he will. Big deal, he saved his body. What if together they could have saved their lives? He’ll never know.
Do you still keep a safety net?
